Written by Samantha C Sinclair
This blog post is going to cover a lot in a short time, so hang on.
First let me speak from experience in ignoring or waving off red flags in relationships. It’s dangerous. First not all abuse is physical. Not all abuse is name calling. Sometimes it’s hidden, also known as covert abuse. While it may seem your boyfriend or girlfriend, or spouse, may seem concerned about your wellbeing it could be otherwise. Do they constantly have to know who you are talking to or where you are? Do you get accused of looking at other men or women in a way you are not? Does he or she seem to disapprove time spent with others, even your family or their own? Do they seem jealous of children or even pets? You can find a full list of a covert abuser online. There are other important types of red flags to look for. Do they share your faith? Do you have the same goals in life, such as children? What are their stances in the political ring? While opposing parties doesn’t have to make or break, you need to compare this with your Christian beliefs. Search the Bible on this. It’s there.
When you are in a new relationship, or deep into, it’s easy to be blinded. The advice of taking it slow is good and valid. While hard, it is easier in the long run.
If you have a boundary of only kissing until marriage, don’t let the devil allow you to make excuses to ignore this boundary. Trust me, you will regret it later. Also, be open and honest with each other early on. Don’t hold back for months something life changing from the other person.
When you inter a relationship God needs to be front and center. Everything else will fall into place. Honesty is a must have. But you must also hear that other persons words when they are being honest. Be truthful about your feelings in a compassionate way.
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